The Divorce Experience: Anticipating the Known

For those who have recognized their portion of responsibility for the dissolution of their marriage, accepted and anticipate their Soon-to-be-Ex’s limitations and personality quirks while being cognizant of their own, and can flow with the disturbing surprises and often aggravating conversations and situations that arise around money, possessions, custody, and parenting choices CONGRATULATIONS, you have mastered how to navigate divorce with the minimum of drama and suffering. On the divorce front this is as good as it gets.

If you’ve gotten to the point where you can take each day as it comes, be prepared for what you expect and are able to incorporate what you didn’t and couldn’t expect relatively efficiently, you are much closer to mastering living life.

Divorce is a harsh training ground for personal evolution. The evolution comes with seeing more than one perspective as valid, being more interested in best possible outcomes rather than being right, and focusing on reaching innovative solutions instead of bemoaning or being fear-paralyzed by actual or worse, projected travesties.

No one gets out alive.

Life isn’t easy. Oh sure, there are periods during a life that are easier than others but everyone experiences doubts, fears, failures, losses, illnesses and eventually diseases and deaths. No one gets out alive. Yet, there is also beauty, creativity, companionship, love, success, healing and wellness, adventure, and grace.

Those who resist and then hold on to the pain and problems are doomed to experience life as a drag because they are holding on to what creates stress and discomfort. Depression is a sure outcome for the holders.

Those who accept and move through and beyond the pain and initially problematic situations will know appreciation and resolution, will be aware of and open to the sweet and easy moments or periods, and will feel more joy, satisfaction, and peace.

The previous ten (10) steps of our 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program have given you the perspectives and tools to be an innovative, appreciative, and relatively peaceful person. It takes awareness, application, intention, and consistent practice to stay in the flow of embracing the vicissitudes of existence. The payoff of this work is enormous. The payoff of this work is liberation. The payoff of this work is worth it.

If you haven’t begun this work yet or have but feel you are stuck...perhaps again, reach our for our Rapid Relief Call. There are absolutely no gold stars awarded for unnecessary suffering.

There are plenty of gold stars for accepting, embracing, and innovating new and more rewarding ways forward. You can use divorce to evolve. Might as well if it’s happening anyhow. Reach out so that we can support you in becoming a master of life!