Divorce and Valentines Day: Choose to Indulge in You

If you have recently decided to divorce, you have been feeling lonely, abandoned and unfulfilled for a long time.  

Being in a relationship and feeling lonely is more painful than being alone and feeling lonely because you feel so stuck, and it’s just not supposed to be this way.

Valentine’s day is salt in the wound for many navigating divorce.

Feeling lonely, unloveable, discouraged, afraid of being alone forever is normal.  

Even if you never really celebrated V Day, everywhere you look and everything you hear bellows love and romance and ‘that special day with that special someone’.  

So what can you do to not only survive but enjoy Valentine’s Day?

You can be that special someone that knows you best, loves you the most, commits to you and cherishes you.  

In fact, for many of us, we have abandoned ourselves to the needs of others. Reclaim your love of self.

Love ~ Pamper ~ Indulge YOURSELF

• Get your nails done
• Get a massage
• Go out with your BFF or some single friends
• Take care of your body with a hot yoga class, gym workout, or whatever your favorite activity is
• Go to the movies
• Buy your favorite bottle of wine and make yourself a delicious meal (or order special take out) and watch a good movie
• Take a hot bath with essential oils and candles
• Add your own favorite activity to your list

Those who emerge from divorce the strongest and healthiest make the commitment to use the Sh*t of divorce as Compost for a new and better life.  

They do this by looking inward, not outward. They become aware of their thoughts and behaviors that were unhealthy and use this painful time to heal and refine themselves.  

They make sure to give themselves what they desire to get from the world and in doing so, begin to manifest the partner of their dreams.

What do Valentines and Divorce have in common?  

Both are opportunities to turn your perspective around, focus on you and make the best of an undesirable situation by using it as the fuel to get you where you want to be.

One of my favorite quotes is from Byron Katie, a life coach and author best known for their book, “The Work”.  She says,

“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do.”

Be the creator of your circumstances and use your positive attitude to fuel your journey beyond divorce.  According to Charles Swindoll,

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than success than what other people think or say or do.

It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company … a church … a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our attitudes.

Let us help you improve your attitude and use your divorce as the catalyst.  

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