I was divorce coaching a client the other day. He was doing really well. Stepping into acceptance around his circumstances, avoiding negative contact with his STBX, taking care of himself when the sting of the holidays after divorce left him feeling like he had taken 10 steps backward. You probably ...

Divorcing a Narcissist and Winning

While divorce is inherently overwhelming and emotionally challenging, those of us who are faced with divorcing a narcissist experienced a heightened level of fear and frustration.  By the mere definition of a narcissistic, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-center...

How do you reconcile the differences between divorce and faith?

While navigating the Holy Land with Rabbis, Ministers and Imams the conversation turned to divorce and faith. The four who spoke (both men and women), recalled their reasons for divorce and the day they decided to take the first steps ...

By Lisa Brick

Ask yourself: Are you doing this?

Fast food, online shopping, and even drive-through weddings. It’s becoming easier and faster to do almost anything in the world today. Unfortunately, our quick and easy culture does not yet apply to divorce. The divorce process is still a long, dif...

By Karen McMahon

Perfectionism and divorce are a lethal combination.  We begin with an impossible task.  We are going to do this divorce thing right...the best...unfaltering.  What does that even mean?!

• Make the best decisions
• Handle everyone’s reaction perfectly
• Say the right thing
• Do the
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By Karen Basmagy

You’ve gone to court, the divorce is final.  Perhaps it was a long messy ordeal or maybe it was simple, amicable and uncomplicated.  You think, whew…I’m glad that is finally over, now I can move forward with my life! You can finally put your former relationship with our ex behind...

By Karen McMahon

I often coach my clients around the impact that being judgmental has on them, the people they interact with and their circumstances.  I invite them to be discerning rather than judgmental and have found that there is significant confusion around these two words, what they mean an...

By Karen McMahon

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.
We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
~ Albert Einstein.

• I was thinking about calling my brother. The phone rang.  It was my brother, an unusual time for him
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By Lisa Brick

There are numerous reasons a relationship unravels.  The majority of them are due to a growing incompatibility of values and lifestyle choices.  In some cases, the reason is considerably deeper and darker.  While these reasons are the exceptions rather than the rule, they are often ...

By Lisa Brick

For many of you who have found your way to Journey Beyond Divorce this divorce may not be your first. Your first experience with divorce may have been when your parents split up. The relationship you have with your spouse is also rarely the first contentious and painful relationship...

By Erica T, Journey Beyond Divorce Client

"The first time I ever spoke to Karen, I had gone for a walk around the block to blow off some steam and calm my nerves. This was a regular occurrence for me, since I had a constant feeling in the pit of my stomach that was a mixed bag of anger, resent...

By Karen McMahon

I recently spoke about forgiveness at a retreat and even those that understood the value of forgiveness and deeply desired to, struggled with how to forgive.

What is forgiveness?

• Forgiveness is NOT for the other person.
  • It is not something we do for the other.  
  • We do
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