What is the difference between reacting and responding? 

The most important difference is the control you have over your emotions.  When we react, it is an emotional knee-jerk snap.  It is usually as a result of someone ‘pushing our buttons’.  We can go from 0 to 100 in seconds.  It is sometimes as...

Knowing what to say and how and when to say it when our children are struggling with, hurt or disappointed by our ex is vital to both our own personal growth and to raising healthy children.

Even after I was able to create a buffer for the criticism, hurt, inconsistency or harsh words that my ex sp...

Karen McMahon

If you are married to and trying to divorce a pathological narcissist it is crucial that you understand the underlying psychology of both your behavior and the behavior of your spouse.  There is a considerable amount of guilt and shame for those who get caught in the narcissist’s snare....

Guest Post By Larry Bailey 

In the beginning of divorce there was darkness. It began to lift in the many hours, days, and months I invested in inventorying my experiences during our marriage,  owning my mistakes, and learning to honestly acknowledge my emotions so I could process the past. 

My inv...

“Moving your body grows your brain.”  – Daniel J. Siegel, MD

It’s as simple as the statement above.  Physical stimulation, both passive and active, supports creativity, mental and physical health, happiness, and brain growth.   Exposing yourself to new physical experiences, learning new skills, pra...

Sleep is an oft overlooked practice if you are to stay clear, focused, and effective while navigating divorce.  Rather than it being a retreat from responsibility, sleep is a necessity in order to be responsible and responsive during and post divorce.  While unusual amounts of time spent in sleep ca...

By Lisa Brick

YOU are the kingpin of your life, the main axle, the engine, the foundation…not a significant other, not your kids, not your parents, not your relatives, and not your friends. YOU are the most important person in your life and therefore the primary person to maintain yourself well.  T...

Guest Post by Mitchell Cohen

What happens if you are getting a military divorce?

Most of those in the know agree that military marriages are burdened by stresses and strains beyond those of an ordinary marriage. It is understandable, then, that military divorces present extraordinary challenges. I...

By Lisa Brick

Honestly, it’s challenging to think now. I don’t know what will happen to my family, friends, and community despite our precautions, how long I can last without an income, or what a recovery will even look like when the dust of this global pandemic settles. Since my children are adult...

By Lisa Brick

If you are co-parenting through this pandemic there are certain facts to keep in mind regarding Covid-19 infections and the threat these infections pose you and your loved ones. While more is being learned about the virus every day there is a certain body of understanding that is look...

By Lisa Brick

“Parents, although your hearts may ache and lots of courage it may take, be brave, it’s for your children’s sake, your courage will see you through.” 

- When You Hear the Siren Blow, a “safety song” written for the children of America during WWll (with slightly altered last line)

It...